Nicola hare - The reset therapist
I Don't Feel Like My Gender
Trans Support & Gender Support Counselling


If you’re questioning your gender, experiencing gender dysphoria, or navigating life as a trans or non-binary person, you may be carrying a mix of thoughts, emotions, & pressures that can feel difficult to hold alone. You might be searching for clarity, relief from distress, or simply a space where you can be fully yourself without judgment. Counselling offers a supportive & affirming environment to explore your experience at your own pace.
Gender dysphoria can show up in many ways—discomfort with your body, a sense of disconnection from how others see you, or ongoing feelings of confusion, anxiety, or distress. For some, it’s also shaped by past experiences, relationships, or the challenge of feeling misunderstood or unsupported. Therapy can help you make sense of these experiences, without pressure to reach a particular outcome or identity.
Combining Transactional Analysis (a modality of psychotherapy that includes parts work) & breathwork can support both understanding & emotional regulation. Transactional Analysis can help you explore internal patterns, beliefs, & self-talk, especially where feelings like shame, fear, self-doubt, or internalised messages may be present. By bringing awareness to these patterns, you can begin to relate to yourself with more clarity and compassion. Please note that I tailor my approach to each individual and each approach is invitational.
If you would like to include breathwork, this offers a gentle, body-based way to support grounding & regulation, particularly when emotions feel intense or overwhelming. You may experience anxiety, dysphoria, or a sense of disconnection in the body. Through conscious connected breathing, you can begin to feel more present, settled, & connected to yourself in a way that feels safe.
Whether you’re seeking support for gender dysphoria, exploring your identity, or looking for a trans-affirming counselling space, this work is centred on respect, curiosity, & autonomy. There is no agenda or expectation—just space to understand yourself more deeply and move forward in a way that feels right for you. My work & involvement with people navigating the world identifying as a different gender to that they were born has given me insight into the types of extra challenges you may face day-to-day.


Contact
Face-to-face sessions held in Northgate, Crawley
info@nicolahare.com
07493 737238
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